Environment Is Everything

What do you think affects your success, your happiness and your well-being most? What is shaping your actions and your thoughts? Today, I want to tell you what does all that and more... It's our environment. The environment we put ourselves into and the people we surround ourselves with have a much bigger impact than most of us could ever imagine. Our environment is contagious.
Have you ever noticed how certain people make you feel? For example, how does being surrounded by people who are constantly moaning and complaining, by people who are full of negative thoughts, by people who radiate anger towards others make you feel? How does it feel to be surrounded by judgement and hate? Personally, it makes me feel drained of all energy and depressed. Worst of all, it encourages me to join in on the anger towards people who have, in most cases, done nothing wrong.
Now, even though we are not immune to the negativity of others, the good thing is this: we can choose who we surround ourselves with. That's right! No matter how strong of a person you are, and no matter how hard you try to avoid it, there will always be someone who will be bringing negative energy into your life, but it will become much easier to stay happy if you keep your environment clean. The way to achieve that is to limit the time you spend with negative people, and choose to surround yourself with people who empower and inspire you.
Cutting People Out of Your Life
Cutting people out of your life isn't always nice, and it definitely isn't easy. The way to surround yourself with positive people means having to cut out the people who bring you down out of your life. More often than not these are people you have known for years. If, however, these people bring you down, don't support you, laugh at your dreams and aspirations, make you a worse person than you are through gossip and judgement, and if you don't feel like you're getting anything positive out of the friendship or relationship it's definitely time to let go. Life is too short to let negativity thrive, and you're not selfish for wanting to be happy.
Over a year ago I decided that it was time to let the uninspiring people go (they were generally acquaintances and simply got removed from my "friends list" on Facebook), and to hugely limit contact with some people who I felt were making me feel down rather than happy. This was an on-going process for a good half a year I believe, I however went the cowardly route which I don't recommend to anyone. I just gradually got less involved in conversations and meet-ups - no explanations. This is the worst way of doing things as it doesn't give the other person a chance to know how you feel, and it leaves them in the unknown. Given the chance I'd do it differently. Lesson learnt. If you're planning to let someone know you don't want them in your life anymore do this: man up (even if you're a lady), be brave and tell them.
Surround Yourself with Inspiring People
It won't take you long to notice the difference if you cut or limit contact with the people who impact you negatively, and focus on the relationships with the positive people in your life. Those people will support you and your ideas, they will share their achievements with you and encourage you to strive for yours. They will tell you about their passions, they will uplift you and make you feel inspired without even having to try. They will make you feel excited about life, and once you surround yourself with positivity that is what you become. After all as I said, environment is contagious!
Finding inspiring people these days isn't difficult. The online world has made it pretty easy for us with the amount of great forums and blogs to choose from: get in touch with the people who inspire you, read their posts, read their books, use social media, sign up for groups that get inspirational people together. The more positivity you invite into your life, the more positivity you will attract in turn, and before you know it you will wake up and realise that the majority of your closest friends and the people you interact with are passionate about what they do, and they are the sort of people who inspire others to lead a happy life. And guess what? You have also become of them!
Your Environment and Relationships
While most blog posts about your surroundings and your environment generally focus on friendships, I'd like to briefly touch the subject of romantic relationships for those who find it relevant. Your boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, husband or wife is the person who you spend most of your time with and who you communicate with most too. They are the person who, whether you like it or not, have the biggest influence on you.
Now, I'd like to say one thing: there is nothing better and more liberating than knowing that your other half supports you one hundred percent, encourages you to work for your goals, loves you and inspires you every single day with their own happiness and enthusiasm for life. Feeling this towards each other can have the biggest transformative effect on your life you have ever experienced.
So when you choose, do it wisely. Be brave enough to walk away from what doesn't feel right, and choose people who inspire and challenge you to better yourself, but still respect and love you for who you are. Choose people who inspire you to be happy, to be passionate about what you do and to be enthusiastic about each day of your life.


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