What Determines Our Success in Life?

I am surprised at how many people associate success only with having or making a lot of money, and who are willing to do whatever it takes to get it. Ironically, it's exactly those people who are the unhappiest ones, and the reason is simple: success means happiness first, and happiness is what attracts all the other good things in life, not the other way around.
However, there are also successful people in this world who are happy - but these are the ones who have become successful by doing something they love. And this is the only viable way that brings success in the long run.
Of course, when people are struggling to make ends meet, success might seem like an intangible goal. They can't simply quit their jobs, as that would put them in dire straits - but they can do something else: start working towards their dreams at least 1-2 hours/day.
The reason why only 10% of the people succeed in life is their determination and persistence in going after what they want - the majority is either giving up or not even starting. And most of the times it's not the failure that stops them, but the fear of failure.
Most successful people have failed many times, but they never given up. Failure is part of the process and instead of being afraid of it, we could very well embrace the idea. It will happen anyway, but we can choose how to respond when it happens - and this is what determines our success in the end.
The people who are in the top of their field today were in the bottom in the past, and maybe they didn't even know at that time what their purpose in life is. What made the difference between them and the majority was their dedication and perseverance in pursuing their dreams, once they identified them.
We all can be successful, but first of all we have to become aware of the 80/20 rule:
80% of the reasons that are holding you back from achieving your goal are inside yourself. They are the lack of a skill, a quality or a body of knowledge. Only 20% of the reasons you are not achieving your goal are on the outside. Always start with yourself. ~ Brian Tracy
Did you know that most successful people today were once either fired from their jobs or considered "unfit' for those positions? Moreover, some of them were homeless, on welfare or living from paycheck to paycheck. Most of them were also judged, misunderstood or considered losers, because their behavior and vision didn't fit with the one of the majority.
The fact is: no matter what you do, you will be judged - so you might, as well, do what you really want. It takes time to become an expert in your field, but time will pass anyway, so why not use it in your favor?
What's your excuse right now for not following your dreams? Do you blame others for your failures or your inability to achieve what you want? In this case you may first consider taking responsibility for your life, as most likely 80% of the reasons for your lack of success are determined by your actions/thoughts/beliefs.
Being persistent doesn't mean doing things exactly the same way every single time. If it didn't work one way, consider it a feedback and try a different approach, rethink your strategy instead of compromising or reshaping your goals.
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. ~ Albert Einstein
It's very important to decide exactly what is it that you want to accomplish in all areas of your life. The most effective way is to make a plan and work on it every single day. So why not start today?
Below are some guidelines that most successful people follow:
1. Know what you want
Define your goals clearly and be specific - imagine that you would have to present them to someone who doesn't know anything about you or your field.
2. Take action
Work on your goals every single day and make sure your actions go along with your values, not against them.
3. Monitor your results
Instead of looking how far your destination is compared to where you are now, look at how much you have accomplished already. When you fall, get up and move on - there's no such thing as failure, just feedback. Learn to see the positive side in every setback, as most likely it happened to give you a lesson that you can learn from.
4. Be flexible
If you're not flexible in your behavior and not willing to adapt or change, you'll most likely break in the early stage of your journey. If you can't change the situation, change your perspective about it and focus on the solution instead of the problem itself.
5. Strive for excellence
Don't be afraid to aim high - if your dreams don't scare you, they are not big enough. Start thinking from the end, as if your dreams are already real by assuming the feeling of your wishes fulfilled.
Instead of focusing on the money you can get, focus on the value you can offer. When people see the value in your products/services they will want and recommend them to others. Don't make the mistake that so many people do when they reach a certain level of wealth: they forget the human side and focus only on the profit. Today you might be up, but tomorrow you could be down - that's how unpredictable life can be.
When you achieve your goals and become successful, never forget where you were when you started; be confident but not arrogant, and most important: no matter how successful you are, stay humble and never forget the people who have helped you along the way.
All that we are is the result of what we have thought ~ Buddha
Dare to dream big and never let anything hold you back from pursuing your dreams. You can do whatever you put your mind to. It's never a matter of can; it's a matter of want.


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